Unfortunately, these negative beliefs permeate their lives and their thoughts constantly reflect their distorted view of themselves. Anytime they are outside their comfort zone or emotionally vulnerable, their thoughts automatically begin with phrases like, "I'm not …," "I can't ...," or "Yes, but …" These thoughts are self-limiting and result in the individual being unable to envision personal success or a life of happiness.
One way to reduce the impact of these negative patterns is by practicing mindfulness. Mindfulness is defined by Psychology Today as:
"Mindfulness is a state of active, open attention on the present. When you're mindful, you observe your thoughts and feelings from a distance, without judging them good or bad. Instead of letting your life pass you by, mindfulness means living in the moment and awakening to experience."
How can mindfulness help? When we practice mindfulness, our thoughts tune into what we’re sensing in the present moment rather than rehashing the past or imagining the future. As a result, we give less power to our negative thought patterns and are able to act without paralyzing fear.
Of course, mindfulness is a skill that we have to practice. Few people are good at first, but with practice we get better. And, as we begin to move forward, our confidence grows and we are no longer controlled by fear. It takes time, but if we stick with it, we get unstuck.
If you are feeling stuck as the result of negative thought patterns, I encourage you to consider mindfulness. An internet search will provide you with a multitude of resources and methods for practicing mindfulness. Find the methodology that works for you and practice, practice, practice. I think you will be amazed at the results.