Day 9 - Avoid Traditional Roles
The danger of these traditional roles is that they can perpetuate family dysfunction and reinforce painful memories for some family members. The result is usually tension and stress, and in some cases, continued arguments and bad feelings that could have been resolved years before. As a result, the family is stuck in old patterns of behavior that can ruin their holiday celebration.
If your family gatherings follow familiar progressions that end in unhappiness, consider the role you play. Often the end of the story can be changed by one person deciding their traditional behavior no longer serves them and making a decision to be their authentic self.